If you need help, ask for it. No matter the scale of the issue, large or small, ask! It’s wonderful when you have people who can tell when you’re hurting or if your burdens are too great, but sometimes you really just need to ask. You’ll be surprised by the people that might turn up to help you.
(via perdita-and-pongo)
Anonymous asked: There's a girl I started talking to online a couple of days ago, and we hit it off REALLY well, especially when she realised I wasn't gay. I know it's early days and I'm probably thinking about this way too soon, but when do you think it would be safe to talk about meeting up? We've already joked about it in passing, but yeah. P.S. Seems I have a thing for black girls in particular :O Some people are gonna be pissed at me.
I’d say give it a few more weeks at least. See that you can keep hitting it off really well if that makes sense? That you can continually have good long conversations rather than just doing it the first few times because you don’t know each other, and have conversational ground you can cover.
If you do decide to meet up, make sure you do it in a public place, maybe each bring a friend along just so you won’t be on your own, and it might feel less like a big thing.
Also, don’t listen to what other people think. It shouldn’t matter what colour or race someone is, at the end of the day it’s always what’s on the inside that counts. Personality > looks any day.
Probably best not to. Wait until she’s single. In the mean time, focus your interests elsewhere ^_^
(Answered from http://www.formspring.me/hellotallsara)
Anonymous asked: I feel unloved, I don't know how to get round it. I'm the one out of all my friends that is meant to lift people's spirits, but when I get down noone can help me
If you’re the one who lifts other people’s spirits, then you must be extremely loved to be honest. I can imagine you’re very popular in your friends, especially if everyone comes to you when they’re down.
And friendships should work both ways. When you’re down about something, they should in reverse be able to give you a shoulder to cry on, even if they can’t give you a solution to someone, just to have someone to listen can help a lot.
And as hard as it is to do, try using your own advice on yourself. When you’re down, ask yourself what you would say if someone else came to you with the same problem.
And if you ever need to vent, feel free to come here.
Good luck with things x
Anonymous asked: How do you recommend getting over someone?
Without meaning to sound too cliche (insert the dash above the “e” there?), time heals all.
(A friend’s suggestion reading over my shoulder is Sambuca but that’s each to one’s own).
If you’re crying about it, don’t worry too much. Crying is good for you. I think it’s even scientifically proven and everything.
Try keeping yourself busy, go out with your friends, meet new people. Distract yourself, but find a balance so you’re not blocking it out completely. Everything in moderation.
And if you need to talk to me any more about it you know where I am ^_^
aeinjopa asked: i cant sleep at night,TOT
Ten tips for a good nights sleep.
1. Try setting yourself into a routine. Get up early in the morning, at the same time every morning, and try going to bed at the same time as well to set your body clock. Do the same at the weekends as well, or on days off.
2. Even if you don’t sleep, try “resting” for around 8 hours a night if possible.
3. Lay off the caffeine (tea, coffee, coca-cola, energy drinks, etc), chocolate and high sugar foods, especially before you go to bed.
4. Before going to bed, have a bath and try relaxing. Wind down from your day, and try and avoid watching TV/looking at a computer screen for up to an hour before going to bed.
5. You won’t sleep well at night if you haven’t exhausted yourself during the day. Try exercising or going for walks during the day.
6. Lavender can help sleep. Try putting a small amount of lavender oil/something else lavender scented on your pillow before you go to sleep.
7. Avoid alcohol and smoking before going to bed.
8. Only use your bedroom for sleeping, as opposed to watching TV/reading etc. This way you’ll only associate your bedroom with sleep.
9. Try using ear plugs/an eye mask if you find it’s noise or light that keeps you awake.
10. If none of these steps work, it might be worth going to your doctor and asking if there’s a medical reason you can’t sleep. They might be able to suggest sleeping tablets/herbal remedies to help you sleep, although only as a last resort if all the above fail.
Anonymous asked: I've been best friends with a someone for a few months now. For the longest time, everything was great. I've had a megacrush on her the entire time and it always seemed as though she felt the same. I never made a move because she lives on the other side of the country, so we really only ever get to talk online (except during the summer, when she comes home.) Things have been amazing the entire time, and I really have trouble imagining what it'd be like without her to talk to. But in recent weeks, she's suddenly grown distant. She rarely texts anymore (as opposed to the hundreds we used to send in a week), and I'm lucky if I can get her to say five words to me online. I don't know what happened, and it tears me up whenever I think about it. I don't even really know what I want you to say... this isn't exactly a question. I just wanted to let it out somewhere I suppose.
She might have just been busy honey, especially if she’s at Uni or something. People do grow apart.
I’ve got close to and then grown apart from so many people over the years it’s insane. I miss all of them, yet just don’t have the time to see them anymore. It sucks.
The only thing I can suggest is to try and encourage her to even say more things on MSN/by text/by phone. Check out here for some ideas on conversation restarters even.
Either way, I hope you guys become close again soon.
Anonymous asked: Okay basically, my old best friend broke up with her boyfriend 3 months ago after a year long relationship with him. she's made it pretty clear that shes over him. But her ex is claiming to be in love with me and i like him so much, i really dontk now what to do. Becase even though we are no longer close i dont want to lose her as a friend. but i think im in love with him. the other day i was at home and i just broke down i cold bare having to lie to people anymore, and there are speculations that he is claiming to like other people to and is texting them. im so lost right now
Talk to her about it. The last thing you want to do is go behind her back. Even if she’s over him, she may not be comfortable with you getting with him as he still is her ex. Although you’ve got to decide what means more to you, her or him.
I’d also be speculative about anyone who you’re not with, who’s not long been out of a long relationship telling you that they’re in love with you.
The speculations that he is claiming to like other people could just be a load of rubbish. Don’t always take what others say for fact.
And at the end of the day, follow your heart. And whatever decision you make, there will always be more guys. Good luck honey.
marjonofrandomdreams asked: omg sara. some of your advices are reaLLy worth listening and actuaLLy interesting.
weLL, i want to ask if what are the best ways to win the heart of a women you want to be with.? or any pLeasant ways on how you can catch the attention of some girLs.? any way that you can give to me.. pLease heLp me.. i want to prove something to everyone and seems like i'm having probLems with it.. ..
Act confident and be yourself. If you see a girl that you like the look of when you’re out, go and talk to her. Even start it just by making eye contact and smiling at her. Then go over and ask for her number/ask if she’d like to go on a date.
And you shouldn’t have to prove something to anyone. Do it because you want to, and don’t let others get to you. :)
Good luck anyway. And don’t worry too much about being single. The right person will come along some day ^_^
Anonymous asked: I have known this guy through msn for over 4 years now. We finally met not long ago and it was great. I was with someone at the time though. Now I'm single. When I met this guy I had feelings for him right away because I have kinda had feelings for him all along but thought it was really stupid because it was over the internet. When I met him though I completely fell for him. The only problem is that he lives miles away and I'd barely ever see him. I don't want a relationship so soon after just splitting up with my ex who I was with for 2 years. But it still has me thinking. I know that this guy has feelings for me back. I just want to know if you think we could make it work, long distance? if we did decide to try it.
If both people put in the effort, long distance relationships can work. :) Talk to him about it, if it’s feasible for you two to meet up and have a relationship. If you can afford to go miles and miles to see him. If you think he’s worth the effort.
You don’t even need to jump into a relationship at the deep end either. Take things slow, try meeting up with this guy more, and see how things go.
Either way, good luck. And I hope things go well :D
